~:: Current Events ::~

Now I find myself with a whole bunch of stuff to write about.  Too much.

First: The Duck

Yesterday, G was looking out the window and said, “The dogs have a duck.”  He was already out the back door before I got halfway there, but I never stopped to put on my shoes.  We shot outside yelling, “Leave it!!”  But I ran past Guy – the spirit of Chaz having fallen upon me.  I was furious.

The dogs aren’t used to furious.  They fell away slightly, and there she was, a common little brown girl duck, terrified and trying to force her way through the chain link we use to keep children out of the river.  When we got close, the dogs were still making feints at her – but I stood close to her, so dismayed as she put her little head and neck through the fence in a frenzy, trying to force her way through.  She had lost feathers.  Her wings were askew.  I was horrified that my young dogs had broken them.  And there was a wound near her tail, bleeding.  I could have killed my dogs in that moment.

I followed her, shouting at the dogs, as she moved down the fence, looking for a hole, any hole.  My own anger must have made it even scarier for her.  Then G told me she wouldn’t bite, so for the first time in my life, I picked up a duck, softly holding her wings to her sides.  She weighed nothing.  She was so soft.  But she didn’t know I was there.  She was straining forward, willing her way to the water.

I got to the deck, the only place clear enough I could drop her into the foliage below where she’d be safe, even if she couldn’t fly.  Her neck was stretched out straight and I could feel that little will straining at reality.

When I let her go, she flew down to the river on wings still strong.  The wound had bled, and I was worried about that in-flood water, that it might be too muddy, that she’d get sick from it.  But she was safe from us, and that was the important thing.

Tucker was at the fence, barking at her.  And I became one tight, narrowed eye.  “NO!!” I barked back at him.  He took one look at me and shrank – dropped his head and what little tail he has and withdrew, the humblest dog I have ever seen.

Second: The River

Now today, a new thing.  I have been starting very slow.  I am, after all, partially retired. I’d fed the horses and done the treadmill – and checked my mail, which was sad and empty.  So I was getting ready to take a shower.  Our rooms are on the second story, the bathroom toward the back.  The window is really too high for me to quite see out of it, but if I could, it overlooks the river.

I had turned on the water and was less than presentable when I heard a helicopter.  Not that that’s particularly strange; we live near a small airport and we hear airplanes sometimes and choppers often.  But this was close.  And it didn’t just pass overhead.  The sound of it was loud, and it wasn’t moving.  Like the thing was hovering over our house.  I ran from window to window, unable to see it, but almost alarmed at its nearness.  Then it went off, faded off.  I called G to see if he had heard it, if he had seen anything.  Then I went back to the shower.  And I heard it again.

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This is the summer river.  Full of cousins that year.  Note the rocks, the narrow channel.

So here I am: dripping wet, with shampoo in my hair, and the high window is all steamed.  I pulled it open, stood on tip toe and looked out.  And there it was, a huge blue helicopter, cruising slowly along on the other side of the river, no more than thirty feet above the ground.  I could see the pilot, and he was staring out at something, moving about an inch forward every second.  If he saw me at all, he saw only my fingers on the sill and huge eyes.

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Summer, another year.  Again, see how you can see the rocks poking above the water?  It’s totally dry under the deck.  This is the 4th of July and Cammon is running a fishing pond for the little kids, standing under the deck, fastening little toys onto the fishing line.  You can’t get under the deck just now.  It’s three feet in water.

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Just enough run-off to float the canoe.  Almost.

After I was dressed, I went out to the back, to stand on the deck and take pictures of the water.  There’s a swell walking/jogging trail on the other side of the river.  The greatest thing about it is that, since it went in, not so many people come climbing over our fences up and down this side, trying to get to the water.  This morning, along came a little golf-cart thing with guys in emergency vests on.

They think someone has gone into the river.  Normally, that means nothing.  We have people in the river all summer long – some fishing, some tubing.  The river is our irrigation water – it’s very regulated most months of the year and so low in the summer, you can walk across and barely wet an ankle.  But in high run-off, it’s deadly: narrow, deep and fast.  In 1983, when the waters came within a foot of the top of the engineered bank, we looked out the upstairs window one morning and saw a kayak go by, upside down.  We’d talked to some of the rescue guys, men professionally trained in water rescue; they said, if they saw anybody in the river at this stage of flood, the best they could do was to throw a rope and float, hoping the person could catch it.  Not one of them would have the strength to enter the water and live.

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Playing in the river.  Nice river.  Benign river.

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1983 – the year that almost took out our neighborhood.  Evidently, I took only these pictures of it.  I think I was too scared to want to go out there and stand close enough to shoot it.  The water had gone down about a foot and a half.

When the kayak went by, we stopped looking at the water.  There was nothing anybody could do, and I didn’t want to see what I was helpless to deal with.  And yes, I know how that sounds. We just prayed.

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This year.  Can you tell the difference?  Yeah.  Neither can I.

It’s not that bad yet this year.  And some people say we learned from that close call.  But you wouldn’t want to get anywhere near this water in full run-off.  Here comes the helicopter again.  When I yelled at them this morning to ask what was going on, they said, “We think somebody went into the river.”  I am hoping this will turn out to be one massively expensive mistake.  I have checked the banks from my yard, afraid, but unable to stop hoping.

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That really bad year, we saw giant trees scooting down the river like toothpicks.  This morning, I saw maybe twenty five feet of middling tree do the same.

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The helicopter just went over again, on our side this time, still scanning – they’ve been at this for five hours.  The sound of it shakes the house and sets the heart racing.

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It was moving very, very slowly.  Ponderously.  Slow enough you could actually see it and think about how strange this machine really is.  It seems almost alive.

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I guess I am reporting the news.  I guess I will go and check all the patchy places along the back again soon.  I’m really hoping they find the guy in his bathtub at home, safe and clean and happy.

I’d rather be writing about yarn.

Several hours later: We just heard it on the news: someone had found a motorized wheelchair turned over on the bank of the river, and the police were called in.  The river, they say, is running four times faster than usual, and they were afraid the wheelchair’s owner had fallen in.  Finally, after all this – all day – it was ascertained that the wheelchair had been stolen and dumped.  I’m thinking it may even have belonged to a neighbor up the street.  So the river may rage on; nobody’s in it.  Very grateful.

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~:: The Payoff ::~

This weekend is one of my two favorite ones on the year.  My very favorite weekend is the first one in October.  These are the times when my faith celebrates its general conference, when folks all over the planet listen on TV and Satellite and streaming computers as quiet, intelligent, good men from all walks of life give messages of hope–counsel about how to be better, kinder, stronger people.  They inevitably remind us of our power we have to relieve suffering, sorrow and want.

And while I listen, I make stuff.  Church in my pajamas, making happy things.

But this year was particularly swell:  all of my kids (but one—the missing M) came to my house for a big family dinner.  Even M’s incipient wife came to play.

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Another gray day, so I’ll just apologize now for the low-light blur on everything.  Here is the table, groaning under the weight of the first almost whole family dinner in months. Gin’s fam on the left side.

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Cam’s on the right.

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This is what it looked like outside.

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Sandy and Andy meeting for the first time.  He’s still very little, even though he’s huge.  She’s crawling  – and already somebody to reckon with.

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Ah – the Chaz.

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Our Laura comes to hang with us, bringing presents for Chaz

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and a willing heart.  Playing cars with the boys.

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What I love best about these things is the mixing up of sets.  Uncle and Sand: happy together.

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I can’t get enough of them.

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Seriously.  I can’t.

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Training babies is a lot like training puppies.

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What is so valuable about Laura: we need someone grounded.  Someone serious and thoughtful to balance out the rest of us crazies.

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See how her future nephew learns by watching her?

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Ginna is holding something I found in my Easter hunting, a small set of Matching Cards I made when she was just a little, little person.  I found them in a jewelry box – one of several small, carved boxes I keep on my dresser, rarely opened.  They are pictures I drew and colored, then sealed up in sticky shelf paper.  Now yellow.  Maybe yellow when I started.  But when I brought them out, all the children had a gasp of memory.

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G, summoning M.

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More sets, mixing.

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Having a good time there, Dr. H?

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So, I have four daughters now.  And G is in the background, holding Murphy in his two hands.  We are, evidently, Facetiming M into the celebration.  And this very evening, by the way, is what this room was born for.

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Chaz with nephews two and three.

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Cousins.  So COOL.  I am the mistress of cousins.

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Daughters, probably discussing babies and sleep.  Or babies sans sleep.  Or maybe how to handle girls’ camp.  Or weight.  Or the fate of the universe.  Something.

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I love this shot because I just love seeing the girls lost in conversation.  I am the observer here.  I have set the stage, created the home-place; I have given them all my treasures.  These four daughters – two born into the family, two chosen to complete it – they are now the vibrant heart of this family.  How strange to be the grand-mother when I have spent the last thirty some odd years living the family heart land.

It’s up to them – the love and cooperation.  The camaraderie, the friendship.  When, some day, I am gone – they will be the family.  Look around at your own kids.  Before you know it, getting them together in the same room will be a major event.  And they will bring others with them, some large, some tiny.  So many people who will belong to you, but have lives too big to keep them at your house for long.

They are gone now.  All gone to their regular lives.  Gin and fam flown back home, getting ready to move into their real house.  Cam and L, busy with work and kid.  Chaz having the deep delight of every day’s captive audience and Laura back to school and work.

It’s quiet around here.  A little cleaner.  And our life is back to being our own.

But I still can’t find the Easter eggs.

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~:: Trailing along ::~

How does anybody ever have time to do anything?

Things may have settled down in theory, but in the real world?  No.  It’s not that anything important is happening.  I’m waiting to see if our house is going to be destroyed by the raging of our usually civilized river, what with the mountains and their burgeoning load of snow.  And I spent all day looking for three felt Easter Eggs I made two years ago, going through every cupboard, drawer, sack, box, or closet I own.

My house is not orderly – and the addition changed things up pretty severely – but you know, I think moms have this sort of instinctive sort of GPS fix on the things they own.  I can usually lay my hands on just about anything within a few moments.  When I can’t, when something is NOT where I supposed it to be, my brain starts to short out.

I did find two significant bracelets I had misplaced.  And some needle felting tools I hadn’t seen for two years.  And a tiny felt bird I’d forgotten I’d made.  And a bag of beads.  A mouse nest under a long unused desk drawer (yow!!  Long abandoned, at least.)  Some old kid drawings.  And the black roving I bought two weeks ago and lost track of.  Ginger’s 24 hour Fitness card  (how did that get under my craft table, Ginger??).  And some other things shifted in the moving and re-organizing – things I’d forgotten, and was delighted to find that I owned.  But no Easter eggs.

I would not call this, then, a very productive day.  I did start the dishwasher.  That’s gotta count for something.

So I was going to post this long thing about Sunday and the really wonderful things that happened this weekend.  And catch up on the fifty or so blogs offered by friends and fam – in the last week and a half.  But there were too many shots to process first.  And I couldn’t sleep last night; spent two hours (between one in the morning and three) making helpful notes all over one of my b-i-l’s college students’ papers. (Did any of my comments make sense, I wonder?)  So I was just sort of stupid all day.  Which you can probably tell.  Easily.  And calls from the kids.  And catching up with Rachel.

A day of people, discovery and abject failure.

All of this yadda yadda, by the way, is nothing but an introduction, then, to the first post about last weekend.  And also an apology to those I am so behind in answering.

Our Weekend

Friday was a pretty nice day.  Well, not a bad day.  That night, we went to bed – and I fell asleep very sweetly.  Till, some time in the black bowels of night, we both sat up wide-eyed and shaken.  There had been this tremendous noise, the cracking and popping of heavy wood, the crash of something huge falling, the sounds of things hitting the house.  G peered out the windows: a great wind had blown in yet another storm from the north.  And this is what we woke up to on the 2nd of April:

(Well, actually, what I woke up to.  G had already gotten up and dressed and was gone to feed the horses before either the sun or my own self had dragged our sorry selves into full upright position.)

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See?  Sky was blue, and the snow would have been beautiful if it weren’t so danged intrusive.

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The first thing I did was get out the camera.  The second thing I did was start tree shaking.  See how heavy that snow was?  Those branches are terribly weighed down, the snow had turned to ice on them.  So I ran around shaking them and getting ice down the front and back of my shirt and all over my head.  Some of the branches simply broke off in my hands.

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What we’d heard in the night was a big branch peeling off one of the grand old trees in the back.  It hadn’t hit the house, but the wind was knocking other branches against the walls and windows for hours.  We’ve got huge branches littering the yard now.  When it gets to be really spring, there’s going to be hours of clean-up.  We’re afraid we have lost the rope-swing tree entirely.

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The lilac is nearly flattened.

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Pretty though.

By afternoon, most of the snow was gone.  But not all.  The whole state is gearing up for flooding.  I find myself very reluctant to think that our home of thirty two years could end up being drowned in mud.  Shakes me up a little.  A lot.  We’ve got a lot of plans this summer; none of them factor in having to find a new place to live while we dig our homestead out.  But you never know, you know?

So that’s all I’ve got tonight.  Wish I were clever.  Or philosophical.  Or something.  Maybe I’ll sleep tonight and wake up suddenly brilliant.  Stranger things have happened.

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~:: April 1 ::~

I have no idea what kind of origins gave birth to April Fools’ Day, though I’m pretty sure it had something to do with young men in love in Spring.  Things are winding down a little here, and as I come up for air, I find myself with a lot to catch up on.  So if I am behind in correspondence or promises fulfilled, please forgive.

Having nothing interesting about my own self to share, I am stealing from Chaz:

How Chaz Taught Her Classes Yesterday

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This is what happens when you send your child to Japan.  Once is enough – but repeatedly?  For us, this is April Fools’.  For Japan, this is business as usual.

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“I don’t know what I’m supposed to do!” she’s saying.  But I just keep shooting. And she’s so cute.  Weird, but cute.

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Happy Spring!!

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~:: Flowers ::~

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I wonder why we put so much stock in flowers? Just now, as the weather plays its almost cruel games of bate and switch on us, I find myself counting the small clumps of brave and early bloomers as promises.  Which they aren’t.  They’re little biological lifeforms that have no power to promise anything to anybody.  And still, when I look at them, I feel hope.

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We, with all our language and art of touch, seem sometimes so short of word.  A man – perhaps penitent, or hoping to persuade—smoothing the way, or celebrating a day—will pull out a wad of these things, barely hidden by his back, and present them to his love.  Or his mother.  Or his daughter.

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We send them across continents to express sympathy or joy or thanks.

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Why do we do this?  Is it the color of the things?  The delicate, complex structure of them?  The scent?  Or maybe simply an ephemeral beauty that matches the fleeting nature of our joys and sorrows?

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Whatever the magic, flowers seem to encapsulate for us meanings we are unable to make manifest in any other way.  And they appear at our most mysterious times: love, birth, death.

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A token.  From one hand to another.

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I am with you in this.

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I remember.

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Here is love you can close your fingers around.  That you can breathe in.

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When did something as fragile as a flower come to signify an infusion of courage?

But that is what the gift seems to mean, beauty forcing its way from the depths of the hard earth, reflecting the light as startlingly as any other thing under the sun could.

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A gift of love from the very beginning of things?

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I must admit—I suspect that’s exactly what it all comes down to.

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~:: How I felt about seasons ::~

The fulsome, riotous green of spring.

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And the horse-at-rest peace of Autumn.

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His flowers include some true felted wool.  Even plaid.

All slightly over-dyed. (not by me)

Now, I’m going to bed.

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~:: Blue ::~

It’s been a blue-soul day today.  Wet and chilly outside; corn snow and sleet.

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This is how the world appeared at about ten thirty this morning.  If you look close, you will see the giant wet flakes of snow mueshing down.  Dark.  So dark, you wonder why you get up out of bed.

We’ve had a death in the family.  Gin’s father-in-law.  A restless, brilliant, funny, and very good man younger than we are.  And a good friend.  A really good friend.

A vicious, aggressive cancer had a strong hold on him even before he knew he was sick.  The irony was that he was in the best shape of his life, working out regularly, hiking up mountains in Iceland.  But it couldn’t be stopped.  And a few days ago, we lost him.

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Snow out front, too.  I know, because I looked, hoping the world would be different on this side.  Almost noon.

It’s not death that bothers me.  In a lot of ways, I have to envy him; he’s finished.  He’s lived a great life, provided for his family – no longer has to worry about the IRS or unrest in the middle east or paperwork of any kind.  And since I believe entirely that we don’t stop at the death of the body, I’m pretty sure he’s spent the last couple of days walking the halls of the universe, looking at all the stuff back stage and saying, “This is SO cool!”

Now he knows the truth of everything.  How could you not envy that?

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How I have been seeing all day.  This photo is lousy because the focus is on the muddy door.  So everything behind it is blurry.  In this case, what’s behind it is a wet, hopeful dog.

It’s the hole that a death leaves in the fabric here, down here, that is so impossible.

The it’ll-never-be-the-same that makes the heart sit down.

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Ah.  When the focus is right, the wet hopeful dogs are very clear.

Max has taken this hard.  But I would say to him, “This is what it’s like to be a grown up.  Children can pitch a fit and at least have the hope somebody will change his mind about things.  But when you’re a grown-up, you learn that pitching fits when you come up against natural laws gets you nothing.”

Still, I feel like pitching one.

Gin wrote a nice tribute to him.

We are all unsettled.  This morning, I had a hard time doing anything.  Turning in little blank circles, trying to get my bearings in life.  Pretty soon I will start believing in my immortality again and things will be all right, but for now—meh.

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This is a better way of seeing: a stormy sky, and a dark prospect in the yard—but blazing light erupts just behind the shadows, in relief against the heavy gray of the storm.  This light is real.  You can see by it.  It’s just a little removed for now.  Calling your attention to what’s in front of you.  Maybe calling you out of the shadow, because—I could have gone out and stood in it.

In the end, the only lesson to take away is that life together is a precious gift.  We shouldn’t be wasting a moment of it.  We should see and hear and love.  We all know that already.  But sometimes, it takes losing something to connect us again to that truth.

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He will be all right.  We will be all right.

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Just after a little time.

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~:: Words Fail Me ::~

Okay, I’m going to talk about writing here for a minute, because I’m supposed to be writing a novel.  Right now.  As we speak. Because G is gone south with the boys to ride bikes in the red rock (not today, of course, but yesterday and tomorrow) and I am supposed to – in this now silent-except-for-my-own-breathing (and the dogs barking to get in, then to get out) house – be able to figure out where it was I stashed my muse some five or so years ago when I used to be able to write.

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another sign of spring

Way back some twenty years ago, I wrote books in the evenings when G was in the studio till the early hours, and I’d put the babies down for the night and finally – FINALLY – had a few hours to myself without worrying about what everybody else needed.

I thought this would be that kind of time.

And then yesterday happened.  I don’t remember what ate up all the time.  I got up and fed the horses.  M called in the middle of the treadmill, so I stopped doing that and talked to him.  Then I had to finish the workout.  Then Gin called.  Or I called her.  I can’t remember.  And Chaz was sick in the morning, so I took her some saltines  (I LOVE living near my kids.  Own houses, but that close.)  Then Cam called and G called to tell me they were there safe.  Then M called again and spent an hour facetiming me, which tied me to my computer, since I am too cool to buy an iPhone 4.

And it got to be two o’clock in the afternoon.  Without a word written.  Without a character engaged.  Without a mood set.  So, of course, I got out my Sneed genealogy notes and had to read through all my old research – and then just check a few things at Ancestry –

In other words.  G being gone doesn’t make a whole lot of difference, and this house is not silent, and will never, it seems, be.  And I find that I don’t want it to be.

Which leaves me dangling my talent (assuming I ever had any) over an abyss.

This morning, I prepared my SS lesson, and found myself utterly absorbed and blown away by John 5-6.  And I mean, BLOWN away.  And I wanted to write about that, but I’m shy of writing too much of my spiritual epiphany here for fear of boring everybody to death.  Then went to church and led the music and held Scooter and then went to class and danced and whirled around my students, picking them each up and shaking them out, and kissing them and casting sparkling light up in the air for them.

And now I am here.  Probably not supposed to be worrying about characters on the Sabbath.  And writing this instead.

I was going to write to you about how children process processes  – but I haven’t done that yet, either.

So I go to a sort of default.  I will show you my new felt horsie.  Because I know that he is FAR more interesting than my insights into John and the infinite.

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And my crafty mess.  Yes, I have a workroom now, but my felt junk is instead spread all over beside my side of the couch in the living room.  When I show it in pictures I can see that what I feared was just a dreadful, messy, irresponsibly kept house is actually a pleasant riot of textures and silky colors (yes it is too, G.  Don’t you see that?).

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But even as  I post this, I am still wearing ears that are stuffed with life, eyes that are tired, dead people unfound, the blowing gray chill of spring outside – and nowhere to go with the wistful, fantastical tale that flirts around the edges of my dreams.

Which all sounds like I should be lying on the floor sifting ashes over my head.

But I’m not.

I think I’m just amazed that I have so much that is real, I don’t have time for pretend.

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~:: Just Saint Pat ::~

One of the things I have actually known for sure in my life is that we were Irish.  I don’t remember when I first knew it, but I tasted it every day after that all through my young-in-family years.  Green Irish.  Not Orange.  That was absolute, even though we were nothing close to Catholic.

My middle name came from my father’s father’s father’s brother—I think.  (And wouldn’t you think I’d know that for sure, cerrtainly???)  And it’s an Irish name.  Our last name, though truncated and civilized when the old ones came over to this side of the wide ocean, meant “that guy who lives under the little hill,”  or “on the little hill,”  or “the guy with the brown hair.”  Any number of things it meant.  What a generous and free-handed language that must have been.

And when I’d spread my father’s huge many-generation pedigree out on the Arkansas-woven rag carpet of our living room, I saw Ireland listed over and over again in my father’s line.

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These are Irish children, in spite of their father’s lack of the blood.

My father taught us to say, “Top of the mornin’ to ya!”  and “Erin go bragh!”  And once I gave him a green T-shirt for St. Pat’s day that said, “You can always tell an Irishman – but you can’t tell him much.”

The day before the St. Paddy’s day parade in New York one year, my friends and I were wandering the city and found ourselves possessed of carnations, died a proper Irish green.

My father brought us presents on that day, and we always wore green and were pinched if we didn’t.  I had a gold pendant made from one of my father’s heirloom cufflinks – gold that had belonged in the family for generations – hidden in an Irish croft by the family smugglers, who were discovered and burned out.  Evidently, they went back and found the melted lumps of treasure and beat them into cufflinks.

I lost it, of course.  (Kick self around the entire campus three times.)

But I have never been to Ireland.  And when I became a genealogist, I realized that we were other things, too – English (which may explain my constant inner conflict), Huguenot, some native American (which I have not yet found), Welsh – a DNA test will undoubtedly tell me more.  But I finally found Ireland cropping up (no pun meant here) on Mom’s side as well.

But then, they say, on Saint Paddy’s, all people of good will are Irish.

And so, when we (now grown and married) had our one and only family reunion in Colorado one year, the heart of our celebration was the children’s Irish Necklace.

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Murph’s.  Not so glorious as the older kids’, perhaps, but then, he was only a wee thing when it happened. It’s the only one I could find to photograph.  But I believe they all still have them.  I was never so pleased as I was when I heard that one of my nephews had later taken his to school for show and tell.

Each of the cousins got this shamrock hung on an empty lanyard, and as the week went on, earned bright pony beads (for learning each person’s name and what family they belonged to, each birthday and a couple of scriptures – one bead for each feat of memory), and other, more glorious beads – a wooden syrup bottle, puffy balls with eyes, a tulip for showing a grownup that you’d found a flower, a spring-wound caterpillar for finding five insects, tiny gold and silver fish for going fishing with uncle Guy, and other things for remembering the family stories my father sprinkled through our evenings, tolling them out like dew-kissed four-leaf clovers.

It was all about remembering – each other, the stories that held us together, the fun we were having with cousins – and evidently, that being Irish was holding down the entire weight of our family identity.  My parents have been to Ireland.  If none of the rest of us ever go, it will still be in us.  A secret sort of rebellious and wind-wild and magical cast of the soul.

Which comes out with the green food coloring every year on this date.

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A Message and St. Patrick

We, along with all of you I’m certain, have been watching the unfolding story of Japan with horror and sorrow.  Even short of compassion, there is a Hopkins Spring and Fall realization that has to come to us with the stories and images of such an unbelievable and world-changing disaster as this.

We feel a bit of an extra connection through Chaz and the friends she lived with and loved – kind and generous Japanese families, willing to take in students – who are in the path of danger, and through the LDS missionaries – sons just like my Cam and Murph who are living in Japan, serving the people there – and now, suffering with them.

Chaz sent me this yesterday: a wonderful read, a collection of translated tweets coming out of Japan that gives us an insight to the Japanese people – both because of the reports themselves, and through the eyes of the people who saw these things and felt the stories worthy to tell.  Hope, in the midst of unspeakable tragedy.

On Facebook, it seems that there are people who are saying stupid things about how Japan deserved this – because of WWII or whatever asinine other reasons they come up with.  I can understand this from someone whose world was shaken to its foundations by that war, but not from young people now who don’t know a dang thing about the world around them.  It makes us all here want to roar and hit.  But the better part is to pray for the cold and ignorant hearts of people who can take even the grimmest pleasure in the suffering of others.

Tomorrow, some people are organizing a day of blog silence, asking that we donate instead, to help those people – just like us – who have lost everything.  And now it’s SNOWING on them.  I will be joining the silence.  In a few hours, I’ll post my Saint Patrick’s day post – because life is complex, and there has to be joy, even among the sorrows.  But for tomorrow, I’ll be thinking of Japan.  So many tears.

If you wish to donate, but hesitate, not knowing a trustworthy avenue to take to do it, I will tell you that my faith, our church, has a monumental humanitarian program, and has already moved hundreds, maybe tons of relief into the afflicted areas.  I trust this organization with my life.  I have put together toothbrushes and washcloths and dental floss myself for some of the kits we regularly send into troubled areas – but it goes far, far beyond that.  If you would like to donate with us, THIS is the link.  You may read all about it if you like.  Or not.  But it’s a safe place for loving dollars to make a difference.

Our houses still stand.  Our water still runs.  Our lights still work.  Our children are safe.  And we will not soon die of radiation poisoning.

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